3 Things To Do When You’re Struggling With Body Image
Hi friends! It’s been a while since i’ve talked about mental health on here. I’ve kind of been doing a lot more thinking and a lot less writing. But lately, I’ve been struggling with some old thoughts and there’s a few things i’ve been doing that i think could help you as well.
Put Away the Mirrors
The first is taking a break from mirrors. Mirrors have always been triggering for me. I don’t know about you, but I often struggle with comparison, not specifically with other people, but with my self in the past. This makes mirrors tricky. Up until a few weeks ago, in my room I had a floor length mirror and a mirror over my desk. Pretty much, I couldn’t walk anywhere in my room without seeing a mirror. So, I put one of them in a closet and covered the other with pictures of people I love and people who have inspired me. It reminds me that those relationships wouldn’t be possible if I was still living the way I was 5 years ago, and it reminds me that we love people for who they are on the inside, not the outside. We love people for who they are, not how their body looks. I’ve noticed that getting rid of the constant mirrors has really been helping to decrease the anxious thoughts!
Get Rid of the Scale
The second is getting rid of the scale, again. When I was first in recovery, I wasn’t allowed to use a scale for a year or two, which helped me SO much. But after a couple of years, I felt like it was still controlling me, in a different way, because I was terrified of finding out how much i weighed. Even though it wasn’t controlling me in the same way, it was still controlling me. So, I slowly incorporated it back into my life in a healthy way, so that I wasn’t so afraid of a doctor telling me my weight or having to step on a scale at a sports physical, etc. But a few months ago, I realized that my relationship with it had become harmful again. So…I threw it away.
Yep, just chucked it in the garbage bin. Because why do I need a machine to tell me i’m not good enough? I don’t, and neither do you. I NEVER would have been able to do that a few years ago, and guess what? You can do it too. If the scale is a barrier for you, pick it up and walk yourself out the door and throw it away. I promise you’ll be ok and actually even better without it.
Take a Break From Your Watch
Number three, taking a break from my watch. I love wearing a watch, especially my Garmin! I’ve worn my running watch pretty much every day for the last five years and I love it. But a month or so ago, I realized that I needed to make a change and either stop wearing it or take the activity tracker function off of it. If you read one thing from this whole post, please let it be this.
You do not need to report to any number. No number should have such a hold on you and your life that it makes you feel badly about yourself. Whether it’s weight, calories, grades, steps, heart rate, any of them, no number defines you. What defines you is your heart.
From now on the only number my watch will tell me is the time of day.
These are just a few things that have been helpful lately. i hope they help you too and remember that you’re never alone and it WILL get better.